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A Friend

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

A Friend

About a year and a half ago I was reintroduced to the cousin of a very close friend of mine. We had actually been introduced over 30 years ago, but neither of us remembers much about that introduction. However, when we decided to meet for lunch, we both recognized each other immediately even though so much time had elapsed.

We quickly became fast friends and began to see each other frequently. Very early on, I told her about Donna (my husband). And this surprised even me! I have known others for many more years and I would never think to tell them about my husband's crossdressing for a variety of reasons -- the usual reasons we significant others choose not to tell. But for some reason is was different with "D." I knew she would be supportive; I knew she would be non-judgmental; and I knew I could trust her with the information.
Eventually, we decided that she should actually meet "Donna" rather than just hearing about her.
So recently I had D over for dinner. It went well. I had told D to ask any questions she might have, and she asked a few. But she really had no problems with the crossdressing and was pleasantly surprised to find that Don and Donna were really the same person. I guess she had thought there might be a split personality.
Donna of course was delighted to have someone to talk to and is even more delighted that the three of us are planning a day trip later this year. I know she hopes that there will be more of these outings to follow.
It is definitely nice for me as well to have a friend who is not in the gender community whom I can talk to about the crossdressing. D is genuinely concerned about me and has told Donna to make sure I am not hurt in any way. Donna appreciates this.

One of the concerns that significant others have voiced to me over the years is that there is no one to talk to. They are tired of the 'secret' yet are concerned for their families' privacy.
So when one can find a friend to talk to it is particularly rewarding. Especially when that friend is someone you can talk to about ANYTHING. I just wish there were more women like D in this world. I know there are some. Finding one is hard!

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