Significant Other

Telling

Notes on Gender Role Transition
Anne Vitale Ph.D. Editor
A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Telling

I was asked recently about the best way to tell a significant other that one is a crossdresser. Oh boy, I thought. Is this not a loaded question! What works for one does not work for another. That we know. Just recently a significant other mentioned that she found out when her husband suddenly appeared in bed "en femme." Although she was shocked, she also found it erotic! Since then, she and her husband have had long talks and their lives have taken a turn for the better. He is happier than he has been in years and she has discovered that their poor relationship for the past few years was not her fault, but due to his guilt and shame over his desire to crossdress. So it ...
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Going Out

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. Julie can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net. Her book, A Significant Other View, by Julie Freeman is available now through Amazon.com.

Going Out

Going Out Going Out Significant others from time to time go out with their partners to gender events. These events may be at a hotel, a couple's home, or even a restaurant. Usually they attend with others whether it be a monthly Tri-Ess meeting, a DVG rap group, or California Dreamin'. Their partners are pleased that they attend these somewhat "protected" events and may even express a desire for their significant other to go out in public with them - perhaps shopping at a nearby mall, go to a movie or play, or out to dinner.

Some wives feel comfortable and have no problems going out in public. Some wives never go out with their husbands, ...
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Faithfulness

Notes on Gender Role Transition
Anne Vitale Ph.D. Editor
A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Faithfulness
One of the more disturbing topics that significant others discuss is that of faithfulness. It seems that many wives, not just girlfriends mind you, have discovered that when their crossdressing husbands emerge from the closet, they feel sexual experimentation is now on the agenda. Some are convinced they really are women; therefore a boyfriend is in order. Others don’t know what they want, but just want to play around a bit until they discover what they like.

At the same time these individuals are experimenting, they expect their wives to support and condone their behavior, keep the family unit intact without even raising an eyebrow. They are hurt and saddened to...
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Celebrating Diversity

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Celebrating Diversity
As children, we looked for conformity. We wanted our parents to be like everyone else’s. We wanted our friends to be just like us or at least look like us! We wanted to live in a house like our friend’s. We wanted our neighborhood to be like our friend’s. We found comfort and solace in the status quo; we celebrated sameness! We not only did not like those who were different, we were terrified of being ostracized by our peers simply because we were different.

But as we grew older, we became more aware of our surroundings and came to realize that we are not alike at all. We are quite varied in our appearance, our philosophies, and our values.

So as we grew up and became more secure in our own individuality, we came to un...
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Being Bombarded

Being Bombarded
By Julie Freeman

April 27, 2007

Belonging to an on-line group of women who are in a relationship with a transgendered man never fails to bring up topics that I feel obliged to comment on. Without fail, wives new to the group are hostile, angry, afraid, and just wish the transgenderism would disappear. One wife, recently, pointed out that with everything being said these days about deteriorating marriages, crossdressers who push the envelope, formerly positive wives becoming more negative, might it just not be better to never start a relationship with a crossdresser since the significant other can only come to expect escalation of the transgenderism and a worsening of the personal relationship.

Well, this was a bandwagon everyone with an axe to grind could not wait to jump on. Warnings to those women, not yet married, came out in droves cautioning anyone who had not yet tied the knot to run as fast as they could from the transgressor – in this case, their transgendered boyfriend.

Those women, who were marri...
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