Significant Other

Feeling Betrayed

A Significant Other View
By Julie Freeman

June 8, 2009

Editor's Note: Ms Freeman is the long time wife of a crossdresser. Her column "A Significant Other View" appears regularly in Devil Woman. She has given permission to reprint what follows.

Feeling Betrayed

When significant others first join on-line support groups, it is very common to hear from them concern and anger that they were not told about the crossdressing at the beginning of their relationship. Below is a quote from an email I recently received.

The part that is just killing me these past two days is that I feel betrayed. That he lied to me and has been living another life. "

Tied to their resentment and anger at feeling betrayed is the whole issue of trust. Why did he not trust me enough to tell me? What else has he not told me? How can I ever trust him again! The list goes on and on.

And so it becomes part of every support group's routine to help...
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Helping to Make Your SO Supportive

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Helping to Make Your SO Supportive

Posted Jan 13, 2014

A friend of mine whom I correspond with on a fairly regular basis asked me what could crossdressers do to make their significant others more supportive. As we all know, there are some significant others who are accepting from the very beginning and have little problem with crossdressing or even transsexualism. But then there is the other extreme -- wives and partners who cannot tolerate the idea of a husband who desires to crossdress. It is very difficult to reach this latter group as their minds are already made up to resist any action on the part of their husband, support group, helping professional, or even other wives to become supportive or at the very least try to learn why their spouses are transgendered.

But t...
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Complicated and Complex Behavior

A Significant Other View
By Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Complicated and Complex Behavior

Posted Jan 13, 2014

Recently, I mentioned that I belonged to some spirituality groups. Through these groups, I have met some very nice, interesting men and women, and have had coffee with a couple of the women a few times. We talk about everything, and I felt comfortable in telling them about my life with a crossdresser. They were very understanding, interested, and definitely non-judgmental as I knew they would be. I also knew that I had mentioned it once before to one of the women, but I don't think she remembered. And we, significant others, have in the past feared telling someone because we thought they would always be thinking about it when in reality many forget over ...
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Growing Up Transgendered

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

Originally puplished in "Devil Woman", August 2015
Republished here by permission February 4, 2017

Growing Up Transgendered

With all the attention and concentration on transgendered today, it comes as no real surprise to find a different television show every week dealing with one or more issues facing those with gender identity concerns. Some shows may have been pure entertainment while others were well-done documentaries.
One show that I saw recently dealt specifically with children who knew from a very early age on that their gender did not match their physical body. It was amazing how articulate and intelligent these young children were.
Most had not yet reached puberty and the issue these young children and their parents were facing was whether or not to start a regimen of "puberty delaying" medications. This would give the child more time to determine whether he or she...
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Interesting Questions

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

Orignally published in "Devil Women" September 2014
Republished here by permission February 4, 2017

Interesting Questions

At a recent gathering, some interesting questions were posed by a member to a group of significant others.
Is it easier for a wife, if her father is a crossdresser rather than her husband?
Is it easier for a mother, if her son is a crossdresser rather than her husband?
A few of us talked at length about both questions and pretty much decided that a wife generally would never think of "'divorcing" her father or her son. But divorcing a husband is certainly not uncommon.
So why is this? In many cases, of course, the father may live in another town, perhaps even in another state. Certainly the contact is not the same as that with a husband.
A transgendered son, if adult, may well live in another area as well. So once...
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